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The great benefit of
living with, working for, or being related to people who have experienced more
of life than you have is picking their brain for advice.
The most effective
people learn from their own mistakes, and make a significant effort to learn
from other people’s errors as well.
A
recent Quora thread asked users for the best advice they’ve ever
gotten.
Here are a few of the
greatest excerpts, lightly edited for clarity:
Never say “but.”
“A very smart woman I
worked with once told me that if I eliminated the word ‘but’ from my
professional vocabulary, I’d find greater acceptance for my ideas, and greater
cooperation from my team members… The word ‘but’ negates everything that
precedes it, and you cast a negative spin on anything you say when you use it…
‘But’ is exclusive and isolating; ‘and’ is inclusive and welcoming.” —Quora
user Marsha Browne
You never get anything
unless you ask.
“It was a professor in
my university, but I believe its origin is from somebody famous: If you
don’t ask, the answer is always ‘no’.” —Quora user Joe Yasman
Think before you
complain.
“Don’t complain. I
think it was phrased as something like, ‘Do you ever listen to someone
complaining and think, This is a great conversation!?’ Being negative doesn’t
help others, and it doesn’t help you.” —Quora user Steve Carnagua
Time is the one thing
you never get back.
“A mentor I had some
years ago told me that time is the one thing that you can never get back. If
you look at it as an asset, you can donate it, spend it, or waste it. Whatever
you do with it, it is gone once it passes.” —Quora user Karen Meyer
Attitude is more
important than talent.
“I have been time and
again repeatedly told that a strong positive attitude takes a man farther than
his talent. There are many greats in sports, entertainment, politics,
science, and art who had great talent but lost on huge counts only because of a
faulty and shaky attitude.
Attitude helps you
solve problems talent cannot. Attitude helps you navigate through problem
talent hides.” —Quora user Vamsi Uppala
Quality is always
greater than quantity.
“If you’re going to do
something, do it well enough to avoid doing it the second
time. Going back to do something the second time is a time-waster if you
knew it can be done right the first time. Even writing this post, I’m putting
in my best effort into editing it, explaining it, and making it easy and
enjoyable to read — to avoid going back and fixing any grammatical errors.”
—Quora user Dennis Do
Be reliable.
Do the right thing.
“Advice from Charlie
Munger (not proffered personally): The safest way to try to get what you want
is to try to deserve what you want.” —Quora user Josh Tarasoff
Slow down.
“When I was in my 20s
I worked as a waiter at a very popular restaurant. I found it very difficult to
keep up with the orders and, consequently, my tips were very low.
One of the very
experienced servers took me aside and she said, ‘Slow down and take longer
steps. You’ll feel more relaxed and your customers will see that and trust
you.’
If you slow down, you
have time to think and plan better. Taking longer steps means more than just
how you move through a space. It’s about looking ahead and covering more
ground, encompassing more than just the task at hand.” —Quora user Gordon Bennet
Everyone ends up in
the same place.
“‘At the end of the
game, the king and the pawn go back in the same box.’ —Italian Proverb
When you really think
about this, in the end we all end up the same. You can’t take your money and
fame with you after you die.” —Quora user Felix
Wong
Time is not money.
It’s better.
“Always choose time
over money. Contrary to what people say, time is not money. Time is much much
more than money. At the end of your life, it’s guaranteed you will be out
of time and more than likely out of money as well, if you didn’t value time.”
—Quora user Navin Uttam
Don’t worry what other
people think.
“Stop being so
self-conscious because absolutely nobody is paying any attention to you anyway
— they are only paying attention to themselves.” —Quora user Michael Wolfe
You can’t truly
control anything but how well you do things.
“To find happiness in
life’s tasks, invest in the process (which you can control), not in the outcome
(which is largely out of your control).” —Quora user Mark Hurley
Listen.
Take risks when you
can.
“On deciding whether
to step off my career track in my mid-20s to live abroad for a year: ‘You have
the rest of your life to work. You’ll be working for 40 years. I don’t know why
we were in such a hurry when we were young.’ I took the year off.” —Quora
user Deborah Diamond
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